During the holiday season, while others are celebrating family togetherness, gift giving, traditions of thanksgiving, and holiday joy, you may be challenged with feelings of sadness, loneliness, and emptiness. This time of the year is known as the season to be jolly, but you are facing the reality that your life as it was has been changed forever. You might even experience envy, although innocent, as you feel that others are enjoying the season and have forgotten about your loss.
A powerful and effective coaching exercise to help you cope during the holiday season is to create a personal holiday affirmation. An affirmation is a strong positive statement declared to be true. The subconscious mind is powerful and only responds to what you feed it. Focus only on the death and you get more hopeless emotions. Focusing more on the life lived and the cherished memories will help you shift to a place of meaning, purpose, and gratitude. If you are new to affirmations, stick with this exercise for at least a seven-day period to begin feeling a more positive perspective on your grief journey during the holidays.
Begin and end each day by repeating your holiday affirmation. You can use all or parts of the following affirmation or create your own.
“I embrace each day of the holiday season with love and gratitude. Love for myself, which I will extend to others. Gratitude for the many blessings I receive daily.
I accept that this holiday will be different, but will have new meaning.
I let go of thoughts of how I wish things were this holiday.
I will make this holiday season a time of peace and reflection.
I will cherish the gift that my loved one’s life and legacy has been to me.
I am powerfully, fearlessly, and wonderfully made and capable and deserving of a fulfilled, happy, and meaningful life.
I seek to find what I am to learn, where I am to grow, and how I am to serve.
I look forward to my future with new expectations.
I maintain good self-care with proper nutrition, exercise, relaxation, sleep, and stress management.
I devote time for spiritual meditation and reflection.
I embrace love, peace, and joy in myself, my family, my friends, and the world.
I am happy that I am making a difference in my life and the lives of others.
I now breathe new life into my heart and soul and commit to greet each day with love and gratitude.”